The New Life Inc.

Newsletter: Article

Yes or No?
Sept. 2001
by Ralph Nault

It seems like most of us have a problem with yes and no. These two little words are very hard to say sometimes. When we should say yes we say no! When we should say no we say yes! When we can't say either we make excuses or lie.

The hearer also has a problem with these two little words. They can make you unhappy when someone says no when you want to hear yes. The reverse is true also they might say yes when you want to hear no.

This problem started a long time ago when we were little kids. If we wanted a yes you just kept working on the person until you got a yes.

It seems like a lot of manipulation goes on with these two little words. They are loaded words. If anyone can get you to say yes or no it binds you. I can understand why people are afraid of these words. Did you know that we are afraid of certain words?

If I say yes to this I am under obligation to this person or group. If I say no they are disappointed in me.

How blessed is the person that can say yes or no boldly and with confidence in any kind of situation without feeling guilt or reacting to how others receive it. How blessed is the person that can accept yes or no gracefully without feeling let down or disappointed.

Words have a very strong effect on our emotions. Two of the emotions they strongly effect is love and fear. We have all said many things, sometimes very quickly that had a great effect on the people around us. If we truly knew had powerful word are we would be more careful with them.

The Bible tells us to be slow to speak. It is a warning! God spoke and creation happened. We speak and either create or destroy. Satan speaks to destroy! God speaks to bring life and healing! What do you speak?

The bible says let your communication be yea, yea or nay, nay. I think that means don't be wish'y-wash'y in your speech. In our use of yes and no we are so loose that after a while no one knows what we mean and it affects peoples faith in us. They don't trust what we say anymore.

Be slow to speak, say what you really mean, let your yes be yes and your no be no.

Don't allow what other people say, mess up your emotional feeling or mind.

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