One of the scriptures you should know and spend some time on is in Hebrews 4:12. I would encourage you to pray and ask the Holy Spirit to give you a clear understanding of every part of that scripture.
For the word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart.
If you do not come to the place where you know the difference between the soul and the spirit you will always have a problem knowing what God is sayings to you.
I have come to see that faith has a voice and it is always there, ready to show you the way. Your natural mind does not recognize it and does not want to follow its leading. The wise man will listen to what faith has to say to him and will not be mislead by the natural mind which always wants to have its own way.
When we are double-minded, we are always uncertain about what to do, what to say and where to go.
Hebrew 12:1 Now faith is the ?assurance of things ?hoped for, the conviction of ?things not seen.
I like to listen to what faith tells me and to walk in it because then I am filled with confidence and assurance. I know what I am to do, where I am to go and what I am to say. When faith is not telling me to do any of these things I just relax and enjoy life. God has not told me to do great thing for Him. He just wants me to be available.
A word to the wise! Several years ago when I got all wound up and uptight He told me to relax and enjoy life, enjoy my family, enjoy the church, and to enjoy Him. I have tried to do that ever since. Being legalistic and climbing on everyone’s back is not being spiritual.